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It’s been so long since I’ve posted something. Even though I am still fighting medical problems, I’ve been overrun with that urge to get back in the saddle and start writing again.
Reading today’s (1/21/19) Harvard Business Review Management Tip of the Day, I had a thought. Share this on By’s Musings to let people know that I’m still alive and thinking.
How to Work with Someone Who Bugs You
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Sometimes you have to work with a colleague you don’t particularly like. They may not be toxic or difficult — they might just get on your nerves. To work with them productively, remind yourself that while you won’t get along with everyone, there is potential value in every interaction. Think about the other person’s point of view: Why do they do the things that annoy you? What might be motivating them? And how do you seem to them? It also helps to approach conversations with a problem-solving mindset:
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“I don’t feel like we are working together as effectively as we could. What do you think? Do you have any ideas for how we can work together better?” If that doesn’t work, try asking for their help: “You’ve been around here longer than I have. What should I be doing more or less of?” This can ease tensions and reboot a difficult relationship because it shows that you value the person’s experience.
Adapted from “How to collaborate with people you don’t like,” by Mark Nevins
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Stayed tuned to By’s Musings because next Tuesday, January 28, I will be publishing a post on my proposal for a new higher education Key Performance Indicator: the Admissions Multiplier Effect.
Hopefully, I will also be able to outline so what is ahead for me, the projects I’m planning for Higher Ed By Baylis, LLC, and the future posts in this blog.